Posted by daisym on May 11, 2005, at 19:20:19
In reply to upset, posted by Shortelise on May 11, 2005, at 16:14:07
(((ShortE))))
Work angst -- the bain of my existence right now. I agree with Tamar, the guy didn't give you any indication that he has changed in six years, based on his behavior. Don't let the hurt in his voice throw you.
I think you have to ask yourself what is throwing you? Is there some part of you that thinks you should have "gotten over it" by now and that everyone gets a second (and third and fourth) chance? It is hard not be forgiving, to protect yourself, first, above and beyond someone else. I think many of us think we should just say, "Oh, all right!" and make the best of things. I think you did a fabulous job of protecting yourself from a bad situation.
As far as calling your therapist -- I would. I think you need reassurance that you did the right thing and that therapy wasn't supposed to help you accept any and all assignments, it was supposed to help you reduce your anxiety around work that you want to do. So touching your safe base makes sense to me now (asking -- did I do OK? I can do the other work, right? It is OK to be upset about this, right?) You need validation around this.
If you don't call, breathe in and out and remember that self-care is critical. And there is nothing wrong with wanting comfort, even if you don't actually reach for it.
Take good care,
Daisy
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