Posted by Tamar on May 2, 2005, at 13:07:56
In reply to Are we suppose to get attached to our T?, posted by happyflower on May 2, 2005, at 11:44:10
Many Ts do want you to get attached to them. Certainly it seems to be important to feel a sense that your T is on your side, and that you both have some kind of commitment to each other, in a therapeutic sense.
I think some people do try not to get attached but it doesn’t always work (people can get attached despite their efforts not to). And if you don’t get attached it might make therapy less useful to you. Other people seem to find it easier when they’re less attached. And, of course, there are different degrees of attachment.
I reckon the best thing is to talk to your T about it. He should have a pretty good idea of how attachment works in his clinical experience. Though, of course, he may not have any personal experience of the heart-wrenching, gut-churning, obsessive, agonizing depths of profound emotion it can involve (sorry, I think I got a bit carried away there).
Again, I imagine the best way to arrive at answers to these questions is to discuss them in therapy. But I know it’s hard!
Tamar
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