Posted by daisym on May 1, 2005, at 17:04:40
In reply to Re: question for psycho-babblers (possible trigger), posted by rainbowbrite on May 1, 2005, at 16:25:54
The easiest and hardest answer is sometimes you just can't keep up or keep going. You have to let down. Or you are forced to let down.
I think pinkeye is right, humans have an amazing capacity to switch gears and convert their energy into something else. But I also think that many folks who experienced abuse, whether as a child or any other time, become very good at hiding their emotions and walling off that part when they need to. They are the greatest actors or pretenders ever. And it is so ingrained that it becomes automatic.
I think one of the critical parts in therapy is to have a way to manage melt downs so that you can contain things between sessions. My therapist is forever reminding me that sometimes this can't be helped. When you are raw and hurting, you might need to take a sick day or skip something stressful. This is part of learning to take care of yourself. But he wants me to function in-between so we've spent time talking about what works. It was trial and error and sometimes we have to add in new things and delete others.
I think that is why Babble is so important to me. It helps me contain things. And I can be as vulnerable, as weepy, as overwhelmed and as young as I am really feeling, without having to make it better for anyone else.
And that is a real gift.
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