Posted by messadivoce on April 24, 2005, at 17:22:10
In reply to Re: If I were a therapist.... » pinkeye, posted by pinkeye on April 24, 2005, at 16:48:22
Well...I am having a bad grief day today and I was writing a letter to my T in my head.
"Dear T, How long will I have to grieve for you? That's a rhetorical question, of course. But it's a fair one. Knowing now what you know about me, would you have encouraged me to become attached to you? Would you even do therapy the way you do it, as you put it 'working with the relationship that develops between us'? Would you change your technique, because I can't be the only one who fell, and fell hard. Would you even practice therapy at all, or would you go back to school and become something more benign, like a podiatrist?"
You see, they really can help how attached we get. That's what psychodynamic therapy IS. You're in this relationship that they encourage and build with you, and then suddenly it's gone. Just kidding. The joke's on me, haha. But take a second and sit in their seat. "Hmm they say, most interesting. She's fallen so hard and so let me check her off as probably the worst case of transference I've seen this year. Wowza, I'll have to add this to the article I'm writing for the Therapists Who Lure Their Clients Into A False Sense of Security Journal."
By the way, I am not usually this bitter. Just today.
So you see, they really CAN help it. I know this because my very first T I had when I was 15 and stupid did nothing do build a relationship with me. I didn't get attached and termination was like, no problem dude! But then again she didn't help me either. Are helping and huring mutually exclusive? I'd ask my T, but conveniently for him, he's not around to debate these fascinating issues.