Posted by Dinah on April 12, 2005, at 1:01:36
In reply to Re: Psychological holding » Dinah, posted by crushedout on April 11, 2005, at 11:10:10
Ok, I've been thinking about this.
To stretch the orgasm thing a bit further.
Maybe the goal isn't to fill us up with being held so that we won't need it anymore. Because that maybe isn't realistic. Maybe the need is a basic human need.
Maybe the goal is for us to learn what it feels like to be emotionally held. And then after it's happened enough times, we can start recognizing what it feels like to come close and how to help the process along. And then after enough more time, we can take the experience that was previously one that only happened in the therapy room, and learn to recreate it in other areas of our lives.
So that we can possibly learn how to emotionally hold others. And we can learn how to distinguish situations IRL where emotional holding is a possibility, and how to achieve that in different surroundings than what we're used to. And with different people. And learn to communicate with other people what we need to feel emotionally held.
All of which we learn by experiencing it in the privacy of the therapy room.
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