Posted by Dinah on March 27, 2005, at 22:09:13
In reply to Re: Drat. I didn't check the box. » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on March 27, 2005, at 21:52:28
I mean that part of the anniversary is my big risk taking venture. He won't reject the card. And since he uses all the terminology I use in it, I'm not afraid he'll not get it. It'll end up in my file, of course, and I'm prepared for that. After all, I don't want him putting it on his mantle. And I'm sure he'll eat the cupcake.
But giving him a gift at all is chancy. He's got pretty firm boundaries, and I'm guessing he'd consider gift reception a boundary bending or crossing. Giving him an abstract sculpture risks him not liking it at all. He's not always diplomatic, tactful, or even thoughtful. So I run the chance of his rejecting it, letting on he dislikes it, or worse. I'm not sure I'm up to the risk.
On the other hand, you don't hit the big 1-0 every day. I've never given him any sort of tangible gift (only symbolic ones) or even a card. He means an awful lot to me, and though I know he knows he does, I'd like to make it tangible on the tenth anniversary. And maybe the twentyfifth. If we make it to fiftieth, I'd be reasonably suprised.
But I consider giving him a tangible gift to be kamikaze like in risk.
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