Posted by fallsfall on March 24, 2005, at 20:18:35
In reply to The real reason I don't want my therapist here, posted by Dinah on March 23, 2005, at 23:29:27
> But I'm afraid that he might not recognize the sessions I describe. I'm afraid that my own filter might color what I remember so much that it has no relation to what actually happened.
> Sometimes I worry that I'm giving you all an absolutely dreadful impression of him by only giving part of the story, or by perceiving things through my own cognitive distortions. Or by outright bending the truth so that I don't look as bad as I might otherwise.
I have found that when I do tell my therapist how I really saw a session, and we talk about it that we really do learn a lot about me. It can be embarassing, I can be scared to tell him (and find out I'm "wrong"). But I know that he has my best interests at heart, and that if I did misunderstand something he won't be *angry* that I misunderstood. He'll try to help me figure out why I saw it the way I did. These conversations are really very productive.
I wish you could feel that confidence with your therapist.
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