Posted by pinkeye on March 10, 2005, at 18:51:09
In reply to Re: Freud stuff in therapy? » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on March 10, 2005, at 18:38:31
:-)
I don't know. But she says that he is emotionally unavailble, but romantically available, and that since my husband is romantically available I find it hard to be emotionally connected.It is all very complicated.. and I don't know whether to believe all this. But I have had patterns of being attracted to men who are not available to me for romance and it is making me think what she says might be true.
I think I do like my husband though, jsut that I don't see him very emotionally fulfilling. It is like if a person is emotionally fulfilling for me, then I can't/don't like to have a romantic relationship. And if a person is romantically available, then I make sure that the person is emotionally unavailable.
She says this is part of the conflict I had with my father. My father didn't like my mother very much, and he grew me up in such a way to kind of support him and be available for him emotionally. So I ended up kind of being an emotional support and companion for my father. And my therapist says that got me all confused about the role of a father and husband. My father never abused me sexually though.. and he loves me a lot and would like to do what is best for me. I think he was little confused himself, and thought he was bringing me up in the right way.
And my dad used to hug me a lot, kiss me on the cheeks, and many days me, my mother and father all used to sleep in the same bed even till I became 16 - 17. And my therapist believes all this caused a lot of confusion. I could never bring myself to tell my old T some of this.. he knew my father very well. But with the new T, I am able to be little more frank about some of this stuff.
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