Posted by sunny10 on February 24, 2005, at 14:04:48
In reply to Re: cognitive therapy - the ultimate downer?, posted by Miss Honeychurch on February 24, 2005, at 12:06:49
the best kinds of relationships are those in which both parites WANT to be together. Need is generally a bad thing to bring into a relationship.
I think what the books and your T are trying to get at, is that the more you love yourself, the more YOU shows. And YOU are worth loving- once you see it for yourself, so will others.
My T told me that if I saw myself as worthless (more like a doormat) that's the kind of man I would attract; one looking for a doormat- not a woman to actually have a 50-50 relationship with.
It sounds like your husband is one man who loves you and is willing to do anything to get you to see and love what he sees in you.
You are lucky in that he will let you take the time in therapy to get what you want out of it. Some of the people here have very unsupportive spouses who make the practice of therapy more difficult.
The coping skills will help a lot. If you find that you get to a point where you can cope but the T still leaves you cold, there are other T'ss and other types of therapy out there.
Good luck with your new endeavor and welcome to PB!
-sunny10
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