Posted by mair on February 4, 2005, at 6:29:02
In reply to Re: Embarrassing Encounter » mair, posted by judy1 on February 3, 2005, at 21:10:47
I know our kids tend to seem worse and act worse around us than around other people. It's a little bit of a revelation to me that this is as true of young adults as younger children, but if I really think about it, it's probably true of most of us for as long as we have living parents.
I decided when my kids hit those wonderful teenage years, that if i reacted to every act of rudeness, selfishness etc, I'd spend the entire day yelling at them. So I sort of pick and choose what I react to. But then I second guess myself constantly about whether I allow myself to be steamrolled too much. It's just tough to know. I also think parents develop a certain immunity to the slights of their children. My son has something of a Jekyll and Hyde personality. Equal measures (well maybe not quite equal) of devotion and sweetness, and belligerency. Although he's constantly telling me to chill or calm down, in fact he's pretty high strung and edgy himself. He's never been a go-with-the-flow kind of person. My husband and I have gotten to the point where we laugh among ourselves anyway, about my son's sometimes very demanding nature. But it may seem horrific to someone else that we can be so sanguine.
Why I don't want to talk to my T about this incident in particular is another issue. Maybe talking to her about him in broader terms is alot easier than to have her see the detail.
I have an appointment later on this morning. I don't feel quite so panicked about it as I did yesterday. Maybe it's like alot of other things - once I've written about them here first, the issues seem more manageable. My T complains that coming here allows me to remove all the emotionality from issues before I bring them to her, but my point is that she might never hear about them at all if I didn't filter them first anyway.
Thanks
Mair
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