Posted by pinkeye on January 17, 2005, at 14:08:12
In reply to Re: 10derheart(VERY long) » 10derheart, posted by messadivoce on January 15, 2005, at 23:59:04
Hi Voce,
Just a small consolation. Even if they handle the termination extremely well and allow you a lot of contact (like mine did - I was allowed to write to him endlessly as often as I wish for two years - howmuchever I wanted to - he replied about once every couple of months - warm and affectionate replies mostly), it is still very difficult to let go of a therapist. There is just no way you will ever be able to terminate without having painful and longing feelings - however sensitive or caring or professional he is.Maybe you should not invest your thoughts too much on trying to find out what went wrong and how it could have been the other way etc. That is called rumination and it leads right into depression. Instead focus on totally something else and it will help bit by bit.
So maybe you should try to invest your thoughts on finding someone else - if it would help go to a male therapist where you are for a short term therapy and you will probably get attached to the new therapist and it will minimize your painful feelings for the old one. I chose to go with a woman this time, because I was afraid of getting involved too much again. And it turned out to be right option for me.
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