Posted by mair on January 5, 2005, at 11:40:03
In reply to Re: first subject in session, posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 5, 2005, at 9:37:42
Sometimes I have trouble starting. My T will get us started and once I feel more comfortable, I'll move us to another more important topic fairly quickly, if where she's started is not what I need to talk about. (all of this is after dealing with a few basic housekeeping matters if there are any or minor chit chat)
That I can shift topics to something of importance to me is a huge improvement. I used to be a classic example of someone who frequently brought up the most important thing with mere minutes left in the session. Sometimes I'd raise an issue literally as I walked out the door as in "the next time we meet we should probably talk about X." This way I didn't have to be the person to raise the issue during the next session because it was essentially already on the table.
Even that was an improvement over earlier times when I'd let my T direct where things would go and I'd breathe a great sigh of relief if she never raised the issue of most importance to me or if I was able to adroitly avoid getting anywhere near the most important issues.
Mair
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