Posted by Daisym on December 20, 2004, at 23:09:56
In reply to Re: Can't make a decision » daisym, posted by littleone on December 20, 2004, at 14:50:34
He has accepted small gifts from me before. I gave him a "Knight in Shining Armor" last year, which was one of those nesting dolls that get smaller and smaller. It symbolized the work we were doing going deeper and deeper.
At the one year marker, I gave him two books, one full of phrases and quotes, to symbolize the words we had shared and one was a blank journal, to symbolize what was still left to say. He loved them both, especially because he keeps a dream journal.
I know many therapists have a very strict "no gifts" policy. But somehow I think these little things help cement the relationship for people like me who worry about it so much. I would feel rejected if he said no, and I think he knows that. But I am careful to keep them inexpensive and symbolic of the work we are doing and not personal. AND, I find the funniest cards I can. Last year I found this great card of a little kid all dressed up in a business suit, with a brief case and everything. She was about 3 feet tall and talking on a pay phone. I said, "this is ME when I call you." He laughed and laughed.
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