Posted by daisym on December 17, 2004, at 23:56:29
In reply to BIG Setback (Long -- as usual), posted by Aphrodite on December 17, 2004, at 18:04:31
I have been right where you are. Your brain is SCREAMING: "I knew it!!" Some part of you expected him to fail you and now he has. But of course it was completely unintentional. So the adult part of you is trying to have the rest of you register that information. It is impossibly painful. I think when it happened to me I thought I would just quit therapy. Then I thought, nope, I'll "just" go to my sessions and talk about some things, but no more talking from the younger parts of me. But then I felt to empty and upset. I missed being connected. Moreover, I NEEDED to be connected to my therapist. Together we found a way past it. It was hard and probably took 6 or 8 sessions. We would process it, move on and come back to it.
But overall, the rupture and repair has made us in some ways a stronger team. You WILL get through this. Just give yourself space to be angry and to be sad. Keep talking about it. Over and over again. You will learn something from all of this.
In the meantime, try to be nice to yourself. Eat ice cream and allow yourself to cry. Being frozen in it will make it worse.
(((Aphrodite))
I'll be around all weekend.
poster:daisym
thread:430994
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