Posted by cubic_me on December 17, 2004, at 15:28:01
In reply to DBT...CubicMe??-others, posted by B2Chica on December 17, 2004, at 10:57:32
I just wrote a massively long post, but it's not showing up :( I will try to summarise!
I've been going to group for about 3 months (11/2 hours a week) - there are 8 of us. We don't do activities (except we set 'rules' that all the group members should try to follow (coming on time, not acting on agressive feelings in group etc). The T doesn't speak much, except to get us to talk more about our feelings (don't they all!!). We just chat about nothing much. The T wants us to talk more about things that bother us etc, but none of us really feel ready to do that - I don't think I'll ever want to talk to these people about me, but I'm happy to participate in group on a 'surface level'.
Where I have therapy doesn't have enough funding for us to go to individual as well - alot of places do this tho. I would definately like just the occasional session, especially as I am thinking of giving up group as it isn't doing much for me. Maybe this is resistance or transference, but most of the group probably haven't heard of them, and they may be biased. We can't talk to the group T individually either, so I feel a bit alone.
Some of the group are really getting something out of it tho. However these seem to be the people with more 'surface' issues. I'm not sure what good me talking to them is doing me tho' - I can do that all day with patients in hospital when I am working!
About your new T: you said that you though only wanting to see him may be a sign of your borderline. I was thinking maybe wanting *only* him (when he is unavailable at the momeent, and may be unavailable in future) may be a way of avoiding therapy (and the issues it brings up). If I'm totally off base, just ignore that!
OK, that wasn't much of a summary, but there you go!
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