Posted by daisym on December 14, 2004, at 0:43:33
In reply to Re: I want to want to be better (*trigger*) » fallsfall, posted by cubic_me on December 13, 2004, at 14:04:46
>Because, like someone said on another thread, I'd be 'indulging my problems'. I know that it is part of my problem that I don't want to be a burden or attention seeking, but this is more than that. I guess I'd feel more guilty for getting help because (as I don't want to be well) my problems are of my own doing.
Cubic,
I said something similar to my therapist today. I told him I spent a lot of time over the weekend trying to figure out what I thought therapy could do for me anymore. It wouldn't fix my life or the choices I was making. And if I couldn't change, then why was I still in therapy?I have to tell you, this led to one of the best sessions I've had in awhile. My therapist talked about learning to "allow" my feelings and to understand them better. He talked about listening to my sadness and learning from it. And then we talked about all the stress in my life and just having a place to unload some of it. To complain without guilt.
Most importantly we talked about "wanting" therapy vs. "needing" therapy. I think when you feel like you do, you "need" therapy. And you need to allow yourself to have it. It will help you live a more productive life. And no one should struggle with all this sadness all the time.
Please call your old therapist and at least run it by her. I bet she will help you sort it out.
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