Posted by peacefeline on November 27, 2004, at 21:40:16
In reply to Re: Need advice on therapist boundaries, posted by eugenia on November 27, 2004, at 21:07:52
Wow...that really sounds like an ethics breach to me, for her to tell your ex that you were borderline.
That he continued in therapy with her after you left is pretty shaky but I guess with stringent attention to ethics it could be done. But now that she's told him whatever she has, that makes it impossible, IMO, for you to ever have treatment from her again.
This, I guess, is where T's earn their gray hair. They see a way they think they can help, and sometimes it causes more trouble than it's worth!
In my own experience, my h was seeing a T for over a year before I decided to see a T. His T immediately declined to see me, with or without my h, but referred me to someone good. Then, soon, my h and I were asked to sign releases which would allow the 2 T's to share info with each other (but not to share the spouse's info with the other spouse.)
Unknown to me at the time was that my h had a huge secret he'd kept from me for 21 years and his T was working on it with him. The idea in sharing that info with my T was to help her help me, especially at such time as my h finally let the secret out.
The point I'm getting to here is that, in almost a whole year of therapy, my T never once let the cat out of the bag. She must have wanted to, very badly, but she couldn't because of ethics. She couldn't even steer me in that direction, and even now that the secret is out, she can only talk about what I myself have said, not anything she's gotten from talking with the other T.I'm really sorry to hear that you had that experience. It'd be interesting to hear from some others, what their ideas are about the ethics of that.
Susan
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