Posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 15, 2004, at 14:31:58
In reply to I don't understand what went wrong..., posted by Froso on November 15, 2004, at 13:53:07
Froso,
I don't think you need to look for a "reason" or "justification" for your problems. Obviously, SOMETHING has been going on. To look for something you can blame it on is impossible. My T says depression and anxiety are cumulative. So you could have had a bunch of "minor" incidents but they all build up and build up.
You mention you know the bad memories you have as a child and adoloescent aren't true. Whay do you say this?
Also, I think you can approach therapy in a way where you can of course address your past, but also in therapy you can work on your FUTURE and learn skills on how to ease your present depression and anxiety. IT's all well and good to explore your past and WHY you are the way you are, but if you are not given skills on how to ease your problems, therapy is useless (in my opinion). So, I think if you are uncomfortable in addressing your childhood and sad adolescence, I don't think it is imperative that you have to have a moment of epiphany concerning your parents. You have the option of working in the present.
Does your T give you any skills on how to deal with your present state of mind?
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