Posted by alexandra_k on November 12, 2004, at 16:40:21
In reply to I'm a horrible mother to my body *trigger*, posted by littleone on November 11, 2004, at 15:14:08
I give my body a pretty hard time too. Cigarettes, bout 30 a day; live on coffee and V and coke and junk food; I am allergic to exercise; I am a heavy drug user; I used cut and burn and so on and so forth... With the SI I figured it was about externalising the terrible pain that I felt inside. I well and truely hated myself and I hurt my body as an expression of that.
My DBT therapist used to say that I needed to learn how to be kind to myself. There isn't any point beating oneself up for beating oneself up! But we can do little things, little tiny steps of kindness. It is hard to know how when we have never been taught - but then it does seem to be something of a paradox that we are capable of treating others with a kindness that we don't allow for ourself.
Tiny steps. Why don't you try to do one nice thing for yourself everyday?
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