Posted by Daisym on November 6, 2004, at 19:42:59
In reply to problems with therapy, posted by meg7 on November 6, 2004, at 15:37:47
Meg,
Welcome to Babble. You will find that many of us struggle with how to bring up the "real" issues all the time.
I have a couple of questions though...are you doing therapy via email? Or do you still go in once a week and email in between? Try to remember that it is really hard to read intention into an email...sort of like sarcasm doesn't work very well.
The other question is what did you go into therapy for? Was there a specific issue that took you there and now there are all these other things? Or is this big one why you went but now find it more difficult than you thought to talk about? Sometimes it takes more than a few months to develop a trusting relationship with your therapist, even if you like them a great deal.
Ultimately, it takes courage. If you wait to feel totally ready, you may never get the help it sounds like you really want. I've learned the hard way that my therapist can not magically see what is going on with me, I have to tell him. And if I hedge, he might not get it, and then I'm upset. Ask yourself what the worse thing that could happen would be, then ask yourself how likely this really is. Other people might ask you to look at what you are paying for too... And, ask yourself if you really NEED to bring it up at all...what will you gain from it? The TV notion of blurting something out, having a cathartic experience where the therapist says, "ah-ha! That's why you are such and so" -- is a big myth. Therapy is a lot of work, talking about something is really only the beginning.
There is no easy answer. I wish there was. I hope this helped at least a little.
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