Posted by Pfinstegg on October 23, 2004, at 11:24:24
Daisy's post above about her attachment style made me think about my own. Unfortunately, it's not all of a piece: the adult me is very securely attached, and feels very fortunate to have found this wonderful analyst. However, the two younger parts feel very differently- they are longing to trust and feel safe, but only are able to do so intermittently. Most of the time, the feelings they express are painfully insecurely attached. These parts feel that he is going to ignore, hate and leave them. Right now, even more than talking about the memories of abuse, we talk about their painful attachment difficulties. They are exploring just how they can have a new and happier experience with him, and he is offering himself to them for a good new experience. God, is this hard to do!
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