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Re: your T » shrinking violet

Posted by Pfinstegg on October 15, 2004, at 18:56:42

In reply to Re: » antigua, posted by shrinking violet on October 15, 2004, at 16:50:44

When you said that she "talked all the time, even though she didn't mean to', it sent up a red flag in my mind. What the Ts are supposed to do is to receive and *hold* our most painful feelings at least long enough to enable us to become more comfortable ourselves in feeling them. Some of what we communicate are just feelings- there aren't too many words associated with them. If the Ts start talking too much, we feel instinctively that they are no longer *with* us; we feel, accurately, that our feelings have aroused uncomfortable feelings in them, and that they are trying to make THEMSELVES more comfortable by doing a lot of talking.

You came to therapy to try to deal better with these painful feelings- to have them stop hurting you so much. It sounds as though, person to person, she actually likes you a lot, but that she really is having trouble handling your feelings once you project them into her (it just happens in therapy- we all do it- are supposed to do it). So you are left feeling let down, and just as alone with your most painful feelings.

Do you have the option to look for another therapist? There's nothing terrible about you or your feelings- they just ARE there, and for good reasons. You're entitled to a therapist who can really help with them.


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