Posted by shortelise on October 5, 2004, at 1:36:17
In reply to Re: In agony over termination, posted by mandinka on October 5, 2004, at 0:18:50
It seems really clear to me that this is about him, not about you.
He has issues that are keeping him from being a good therapist for you. Whatever those issues are, you'll never know. From what you write about him, he must have very good reasons for not continuing with you.
I really truly think you are not the reason he sin't continuing with you. I think HE is the reason he is not continuing with you.
If he is as good a therapist you believe he is, then maybe you could try to trust that he has made the best decision for both of you. He surely cares about you, and is trying to limit the damage by ending contact with you - he kows he can't continue to treat you, and is trying his best to end your relationship.
I agree that it would be best to leave him be. If you must have your records, you could send a registered letter requesting they be forwarded wherever you want them. You might want them sent to yor new T, and leave them in her safekeeping.
I feel for you. You must be in terrible pain. What is hardest to imagine is trying to convince that child part of you that this pain is for the best.
And I would guess that your old T is suffering a great deal as well.
Oh, do try to let it go. Try. Try as hard as you know how. No good will come of holding on.
There is a book I like a lot "Necessary Losses" by Judith Viorst. It's an easy read. It might be useful.
This really stinks. It's awful. Be kind to yourself.
ShortE
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