Posted by Daisym on October 2, 2004, at 12:51:34
In reply to Re: the trouble with honesty » JenStar, posted by crazymaisie on October 1, 2004, at 23:04:59
I don't know if I agree with you maisie. Not that I want to criticize anyone's therapist, but she IS the therapist. You calling shouldn't make her feel better, or at least that shouldn't be the reason to call. And it shouldn't, for sure, be the primary outcome of the call.
And her bursting into tears because she didn't want to upset you...hmmmm...the tears might be OK, admitting she didn't want to upset you might be OK, but the way it felt when I read it is that she is struggling with her own feelings about you, and you are taking-care of her. This isn't how it is suppose to go.
Even you saying "i've got what i (thought i) wanted" tells me you think you need to stick with this, for her. I think you need to bring it up and tell her how you feel. Not that it is too much honesty, but that a role reversal has taken place, at least in your mind, and see where that discussion leads. It might be you care taking where you don't need to. But it might also be some counter-transference on her part. This is your therapy, remember that.
But i totally agree that you shouldn't just suddenly shift and make a change. I think you try to work it out and see where it came from.
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