Posted by Skittles on September 26, 2004, at 22:42:51
In reply to Re: Why might T have stopped physical contact? (long), posted by shrinking violet on September 26, 2004, at 18:57:58
Actually, the contact seemed extremely purposeful. Each time, she reached out from quite a distance and patted my arm. I can't explain exactly why, but I am 100% certain that it was deliberate.
As far as your T hugging/rocking you, I think it's lovely. I think I personally would be uncomfortable with a long embrace, but it sounds like it was exactly what YOU needed at the time and I'm glad she gave it to you.
I do, however, absolutely CRAVE a simple hug from mine. I didn't get that kind of affection as I child and I have always missed it. In particular, I want hugs that are just about me and providing comfort. My hubby hugs me, but I always feel like he's just trying to butter me up for "bed time activities" and when my mother hugs me, it's more about getting something for herself - meeting her own emotional needs. I just want a hug from someone who doesn't want anything in return. I mean, pretty much any stranger on the street would work at this point!!
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