Posted by Pfinstegg on September 20, 2004, at 0:00:49
In reply to Re: t's countertransference hurts » Pfinstegg, posted by BigFish on September 19, 2004, at 23:43:23
That's a very important topic, and one that you are entitled to bring up freely and as often as you would like to. Do you feel you can tell him that you'd like to have that freedom, but that his getting so sleepy is making you hurt and inhibited about doing it? I know this is awfully hard to do, but you wouldn't be alone- I think all of us have come up against blind or weak spots in our Ts, and it can really help to mention them. Usually, if they can't correct it on their own, they have people to turn to for supervision. My T had a blind spot which I finally dared to mention to him. When he finally changed it, some months later, he said, "I guess you have been waiting patiently for me to do that!" The truth is, i thought he was never going to, but it helped a lot when he finally did. He's an older T, so I'm not sure about supervision (HE supervises all these other Ts), but he has lunch twice a week with other Ts, and I have a feeling they help each other out, informally.
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