Posted by shrinking violet on September 7, 2004, at 10:52:42
In reply to Re: confession regarding therapist... » Pandabear, posted by fallsfall on September 7, 2004, at 7:55:42
Hm, this is an interesting debate of sorts.
One thing comes to the forefront of my mind, though, Pandabear. You mentioned that you just started "obsessing" about your T this weekend. Did something happen over the past week (either in T or outside of it) that may cause you to need your T more? I've been seeing my T for over a year, and just over the past few weeks it's been a lot harder for me in-between sessions. My T thinks it might be because we're getting close to emotional stuff, or/and because she's giving me the emotional nurturance that I've never had. Perhaps something triggered this "neediness" you have for your T lately?
As far as whether to tell her about the information you've acquired about her....I dont know. In my case, I've "Googled" my T, but I've only found general info on her. Ironically, she tells me more stuff about herself than I could ever find online anyway. lol. I have her home number, I know what city she lives in, I know she's single, I know she's a Buddhist, etc. The only thing I don't have is her home address and, while I'd love to have it, the only way to get it would be to pay for it via one of those "people search" type sites (since she's unlisted) and I don't think I'd feel quite comfortable doing that, as I'm trying to respect her privacy. As someone else said, you know your T better than any of us; do you think she would react in a negative way?
Perhaps, though, you could talk about this subject in a casual way. I think you should process this subject in general with your T, especially as you mentioned that similar behavior has gotten in the way of other relationships. Perhaps talk about *that* with your T, and then feel her out by how she responds. If you still feel the need to "confess" to her, then you might have a better idea of how she might react given how she responds to the topic in general. Or/and you could also mention you are feeling like you "need" her more, and wonder why that is.
Good luck to you.
-SV
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