Posted by shrinking violet on September 2, 2004, at 19:47:35
In reply to Does your Therapist understand how important they, posted by daisym on September 1, 2004, at 20:17:56
>>So do you think that was a strange thing to ask?
I haven't yet read the responses, so forgive me if I have missed anything that may have developed.
I think that was a GREAT thing to ask, and your T's response was perfect. I haven't asked my T that particular question, but we've talked about our relationship. I think *she* views it as "genuine, caring, and real" which were her words, but I tend to push it off and minimize it as "just" therapeutic. As far as I go, I'm not sure whether she truly understands how important she is to me, and our relationship...it's kind of weird, because whenever I try to convey how upset/sad/distressed I'll be when we terminate (prematurely, as I can't see her anymore once I graduate) she tends to get uncomfortable. I think she wants reassurances that she won't hurt me in any way, as I think that idea tends to get her anxious. So, in short, I think she knows she is very important to me, BUT she doesn't want the relationship to be so intense or hurtful that it ends up hurting me in some way (which, in my opinion, is inevitable). Since that's the case, I'm going to try to keep my feelings about it to myself until we get closer to the end, then I'll probably be a crumbling heap in the corner of her office. *sigh*
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