Posted by caraher on August 31, 2004, at 21:23:47
In reply to Re: Male or female -- does it matter?, posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 31, 2004, at 12:02:01
> I consciously chose a male T because the LCSW I saw before him was way too chummy for my taste. I thought I would like the hugs etc., but found I wanted strict boundaries and a formal setting (not sure why).
Hugs? Hmmm... I've never seen a T who ever did more than shake my hand and always thought of refraining from physical contact as a sort of professional ethics thing. Not that it's a coldly impersonal relationship - display of emotion, yeah. But just not anything physical no matter how well-intentioned or innocent.
(This reminds me of the "compliments" thread... the only time I ever received a compliment she prefaced it with a statement to the effect that she generally does not tell clients the kind of thing she then told me, but that she did so because she thought it would be proper in the context of my therapy at that time. Which is not to say she didn't ever point out positive things, but that they never involved her *opinion* about me or anything I did or wore or whatever.)
>I thought a male would be less likely to have all the personal items in his office or ask me if I thought he should get a boob job (which the LCSW did!!!).!!!!Unbelievable!!!!
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