Posted by fallsfall on August 31, 2004, at 7:57:05
In reply to I shared. Now I think I'm done, posted by daisym on August 31, 2004, at 1:00:41
I'm proud of you for sharing that with him.
And he didn't run away screaming, did he? Do you know what he was feeling? You were feeling terror, but what was HE feeling?
>He tried to reassure me that I wasn't alone doing this work, wasn't going to drive him crazy. He said he is available to me as much as I needed him to be. Nothing has changed, just because there was a break.
Print this out onto a small card, and have it laminated.
If you feel this much terror because you have "told" now, can you imagine how much terror you would have felt if you had told as a child?
You showed your journalling to your friend, and she didn't "leave". You read your journalling to your therapist, and he says that "he is available to me as much as I needed him to be" - he didn't "leave".
I think that you *do* need to be able to stuff it in a box, but not forever. You need to be able to put it away so that you can sleep. You need to be able to put it away so that you can work. But you can't put it away forever. It is your history, it has affected (effected? Oh, no! I have to go back and read Larry's post again!!) who you are.
And we like who you are.
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