Posted by crushedout on August 12, 2004, at 16:32:59
In reply to Re: Could it really be over?, posted by Rigby on August 11, 2004, at 20:03:58
Thanks, Rigby. Hmm, well, it kind of scares me if I split with the T because I feel like my boyfriend would then become my sole support system and that just seems like a lot of pressure to put on any relationship, much more one this new. And, although I would get another therapist, it takes a while to establish a connection (sometimes I never do) so I can't just replace her like that.
I'm really not sure it's over. I'm just closer than I've ever been, but she and I have been repairing things so I dunno. The boyfriend really thinks I should dump her. And it's not because he's jealous -- oddly, he isn't (he's not the jealous type).
> How or do you think life would be at all changed in your new relationship if you split from your therapist? I ask because I wonder if there's any sort of connection between him and her (they're both therapists!)
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> Just off the top of my head.
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> Hoping other stuff's going well for you.
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> Best,
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> Rigby
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> > Hi all,
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> > I've been away from Babble for over a month. It may be premature to say this, but I think I may finally be over the extremely long erotic transference toward my T. Part of it is that my new boyfriend (who's a therapist) has helped me see all the ways she's sucked as a T, and part of it is that she's really been f'ing up lately, corroborating my boyfriend's arguments for me.
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> > When I saw her yesterday, I didn't feel attracted to her at all, I don't think.
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> > That's all really wonderful.
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> > The bad part is that she might really suck as a T and I might have to fire her. We kind of smoothed things over yesterday so I'm still seeing where this all goes, but I have major reservations.
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> > Just wanted to let you all know, since as those of you who know my saga know, these are huge, long-awaited developments, if not entirely positive ones.
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