Posted by antigua on July 30, 2004, at 9:40:20
In reply to Re: transference question » crazymaisie, posted by Dinah on July 30, 2004, at 8:29:57
Dinah, I think you described it very well. It fits my situation perfectly. I know my therapist has provided the safety and nurturing I didn't get from my mother.
My T was supposed to be back from vacation this week but she messed up her schedule and I didn't hear from her. I finally called her and it took three days for us to connect (because of her, not me) and I found myself getting quite annoyed. Instead of falling overboard, I just deal with it--she is a person, a good person, and her problems have nothing to do w/me. I trust her enough to know that she will eventually straighten her life out.
I must admit, though, that I felt like a small girl who had been able to hold it all together until her mother came home, and then her mother didn't come home!
We finally had a phone session and I told her she was doing therapy with me w/o her even knowing it! So, I think I'm internalizing her more now, which feels very good. I always thought of her as the good mother, but now I see her more clearly, foibles and all, and I've started to understand what was going on as a young girl from my mother's point of view.
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