Posted by steelmagnolia25 on July 21, 2004, at 20:51:32
In reply to Re: safe place - Susan47, posted by vwoolf on July 21, 2004, at 12:21:38
> Or maybe I need to get out of therapy altogether, because even though I wasn't happy before, at least I wasn't crazy like now.
I don't know exactly where you're coming from, but I can share some of my experience with this. My feelings toward my T are a cocktail of sexual yearning, emotional attachment, and a continuing awe that we have so much in common. Unlike some others however, I do not idealize him. I don't think he is the sexiest man alive, and I certainly don't think he is perfect, etc. I pick up on hints of his personal flaws and I yearn to know more. I want to know all of his interests and vulnerabilities, and I want to care for him the way he's taken care of me.
As for quitting therapy because the feelings are so strong, I can attest to the fact that quitting is likely to be more painful. My T and I decided to try this about a month ago and I lasted about 10 days. By the time I got another appointment with him, my depression had turned into anger at him for agreeing to terminate when we did, so we had all those issues to discuss. Actually, looking back it was very interesting because it was the first time I confronted him directly and challenged his ability to counsel me. I can only say that we now agree that terminating then was *not* a wise choice; it was quite disruptive. I am comfortable now with our arrangement, which is that I'm gradually transitioning to a different T. Perhaps you would be open to trying that?
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