Posted by JenStar on July 15, 2004, at 18:43:21
In reply to Re: My T says I'm a wreck » Miss Honeychurch, posted by gardenergirl on July 12, 2004, at 9:04:09
hi guys,
I'm the new-to-therapy one, and I'm very interested in reading all of your experiences & learning from them. Hope you don't mind that I chime in from time to time. :)gg, is it possible (esp. since you two discuss semantics & word choices) that he deliberately used that word to goad you into a joking protesting defense: "Hey, I am..but also...no I'm not!" and then to push you into an analysis of why you're a wreck right now & how to get out of it?
I'm a big fan of semantics, too. Seems to me that if he used the word "wreck" you can't be THAT much of a REAL "wreck" (a TOTAL "wreck" would break down in tears at being called such an informal word.) Maybe it's his way of recognizing that you're in a very tough spot but it's something you can recognize and pull out of with help and your usual sense of humor.
Sometimes people push you a bit to make you push back and then work on fixing issues instead of complaining about them. At least, that's what my mom does to me all the time. She's not a formal therapist but she really has a knack for concurrently irritating me with her commentary and then really making me think in a new way after I get over the irritation and ruminate for a while. :)
Just my 2 cents. Sounds like he's a very interesting fellow! Hope you're doing better & feeling less "wreck" ish.
Take care!
jenStar> It's odd. I have such mixed feelings about it. I absolutely agreed with him at the time, and even laughed a bit with him. But then that word just kept bugging me. And he's really a "word" person. Almost always using exactly the right word. And of course interpreting all my word choices. We get side tracked in semantic arguments at times. I sense another one coming this week....
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> Take care,
> gg
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