Posted by pegasus on July 14, 2004, at 12:07:11
In reply to Re: Therapist crying, posted by gardenergirl on July 13, 2004, at 23:21:41
Thanks everyone. It's interesting to hear people's reactions. And GG, it's good to hear from the other side. Maybe I'll ask my T what her crying in my session felt like to her.
The discussion made me think of one of my last sessions with my old T, where we were talking about what to do in our last session. He was sounding really upset when describing how he wanted it to be, which was different than my ideas. So, I responded by saying (in my most soothing manner) that it was ok, we could do it the way he wanted. Then he admitted that he'd been about to cry, and that sometimes when that happens he tries to talk through it. And he tells himself that it's not about him. I asked him why he almost cried. He said it was because of how hard this process (of terminating in the middle of everything) was. I'm still not sure whether he meant in general, for himself, for me, for all of his clients, or what. I wish I had asked him. And I wish he'd just cried instead of trying so hard not to. I think it might have been helpful for me in that context to see how much it affected him too. I certainly cried enough about it.
pegasus
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