Posted by lookdownfish on July 5, 2004, at 10:21:52
In reply to angry, posted by shortelise on July 4, 2004, at 20:56:37
I have not been thru a termination myself, but I think that that ending therapy is bound to be somewhat painful, even if you have achieved all you want to. However I don't think it's a good idea to finish like this and just swallow / live with the pain. You need to be comfortable with leaving and talk through it some more.
Understanding where the hurt comes from doesn't make it go away, but it should stop it repeating itself throughout your life. I think therapy is supposed to disconfirm the beliefs you have about yourself that are causing you problems. You have been made to feel not cared for at some stage in your dim and distant past, so that unconscious feeling comes back and replays itself in the present and makes you feel that your shrink doesn't care for you. Becoming aware of the false belief and learning from therapy that you are worthy of being cared for is I think how it's supposed to work.
Clearly this has not worked, if you are feeling so hurt and angry. I would suggest you and he need to talk about this some more. I apologise if this is way off.
What has he actually done to make you feel he's pushing you away? Maybe he really is over eager to tick you off as a success.
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