Posted by DaisyM on July 2, 2004, at 21:29:01
In reply to didn't chicken out, posted by B2chica on July 2, 2004, at 21:15:42
I am so proud of you. It moves me to tears. I know it was hard, and painful but IT HAD TO GET OUT. It was clawing its way, which you know.
As far as labeling what happened, that is just another step. I actually talked with my therapist about what to call it...I hate the word incest, rape is worse, molestation seemed wrong too...we use abuse. It encompasses more and doesn't make me wince as bad, for whatever reason. I find I often still refer to things as "what happened when I was a kid." I don't think that it will ever be easy to talk about, whatever word we settle on. Prepare yourself a little for that. When they say it back to you, it can feel like a slap the first few times. Just someone else saying it out loud and knowing....
You are rightfully exhausted. Give yourself a break and rest some. I know you have this huge party. Be careful with alcohol, you are pretty fragile, whether you feel it or not. It isn't uncommon to shut completely down either, so if it is hard to get restarted next week, don't worry.
Here is a really big, really hard hug from me.
You earned it.
poster:DaisyM
thread:362707
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