Posted by lucy stone on June 6, 2004, at 12:43:53
In reply to Negative transference/anger at therapist, posted by LG04 on June 6, 2004, at 11:53:38
Yes, I have experienced the intense anger you talk about and I have also want what you say you want, I that I could be intensely angry at him without him getting defensive or angry in return. He has never been angry, but he has been defensive on occaision. He has not approached in the same way as your T (he would never says he loves me, for example), but he does think his reaction is important. He says that I need to understand the affect of my anger on people and that even if they love me they do react. Unlike your T, he says that my anger can eventually drive a wedge between me and the people I love. He says that people are not perfect, and that even in loving relationships people sometimes do things that make us angry. We are working seeing the things that trigger my rage in a new way, not has hurts or slights but as mistakes that humans sometimes make (him included). I think this is a bit like what your T is telling you. Yes, we work through it, and it is getting better.
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