Posted by shadows721 on April 27, 2004, at 21:11:15
In reply to Invisibility?, posted by Beta on April 27, 2004, at 17:38:22
Visibility is a big issue with folks with abuse history. I don't know if that's the situation with you.
Visibility can be involved with dress and weight issues. There's the type that is still seeking approval, so they dress in a stand out type of way. Perhaps for this person, they never got any attention while growing up. Therefore, they are still working hard for it. Also, it can be a girl that was the target of sexual molestation. She sees still sees she her value by they way men see her sexually. Then, there's the unisex dresser too. As they just want to blend into the walls. When growing up, being visible meant being a target for something negative. To this person, they would rather die than be the center of attention. Also, weight comes into play with visibility - anorexia and obesity. A lot of this is tied up in our view of ourselves as sexual beings.
It's a do I want people to see me or not. If so, can they see who I really am. This can be a really scary issue.
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