Posted by shadows721 on April 26, 2004, at 17:50:24
In reply to Re: Friday ( Am I transfering too?) (Dinah, too) » shadows721, posted by fallsfall on April 26, 2004, at 8:51:16
"I know he isn't perfect, but I still feel like I *need* him to be perfect."
As you know, no one is perfect.
"It is interesting to me that as much as I will complain about things that he does, I find it very hard to hear other people criticize him."
Do you view him as a family member. Haven't you met someone that complained about a family member. When you point out what the family member is doing, a person says, "Oh, they aren't that bad" or "Look at what you do."
"I think that I can't bear to be forced to choose between the two of you. " Uh, who is asking you to choose?
My feeling was it is his style that is triggering to you. As you stated, "I do tell him when he does things that I really don't like - he tends to be fairly defensive, but then does make subtle changes that show that he has heard me."
"And this guy really is helping me." That's great falls.
No one mentioned about you stopping t with this guy. I was just confirming with you based on what you said that he would trigger me by his style. If this style works for you, that's wonderful. Everyone has a different style of t that works for them. As I said earlier, this t's style reminds of me of an ole t I had. This style of t didn't work for me. Now, I have one that is the style I like.
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