Posted by Rigby on April 19, 2004, at 13:47:54
In reply to Re: Therapist Questions On Sexuality, posted by spoc on April 19, 2004, at 0:14:45
Hi Spoc! Thanks for your message. Interesting. I think you make an interesting point about possibly trying to understand how well thought out my feelings and intentions are (extremely specific and well thought out, actually.) It at least has made me think about my level of desire with her simply asking--so not sure what her intentions were but maybe it has been helpful either way. Thanks again for your post!
> > I don't know why fantasies are different, but they are, and they're none of his business.
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> > I would not give up my fantasies either.
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> Obviously in some types of cases, a person's fantasies would be too integral to their issues to be ok left off the table. Much of the rest of the time if asked about them by their therapists, people probably do just follow their own sense of whether it's important or not. But maybe they could also miss out on valuable insights that way; if they guessed wrong, or there are known issues in a related ballpark.
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> Which is a chance many would be willing to take! I’m always trying to look at all sides, but I wouldn't look forward to this either! Even though I know there are things I probably could and maybe even should learn about myself.
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> Rigby (hello btw, now that we're talking about sex!), for you maybe talking about fantasies is a way to help you figure out how well-thought out and therefore real/realistic your feelings or intentions are about being with a man, this particular man....?
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