Posted by Asya on April 18, 2004, at 19:50:21
In reply to Re: the inconsistent therapist, posted by Racer on April 18, 2004, at 15:25:39
Sometimes my T has off-days, and seems less focused on me than at other times, forgets certain details of things that are important to me, or just generally leaves me feeling hurt and dejected. This doesn't happen too often, and in the 9 or so months of therapy, I've come to learn to live with the ebb and flow of the therepeutic relationship.
I truly believe (and someone has said this on here before) that the therepeutic relationship is reflective of a microcosm of sorts of life. it is a safe way of explroing the phenomena that occur in real life and learning to deal with them. This exploration occurs most consciously through talking and less consciously through the development of a relationship with this other person.
I realize I have become quite attached to my therapist, am hurt when he seems disinterested, and perceive when he's having an off-day. So the therepeutic relationship is a great safe place to learn how to deal with the inevitable ebb and flow that is human interaction. It is precisely because therapists are human that they can help us, and what we have to accept is that because they are human, they can also hurt us. To erase inconsistency from the equation would deny the patient the richest experience of all.
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