Posted by pegasus on April 18, 2004, at 15:40:35
In reply to Distractions when talking on the phone with T, posted by LG04 on April 18, 2004, at 13:51:29
Hi LG04,
I have to say that when I read your post, my first thought was that you're a lot more assertive than I am. I would never presume to call my T at home, and if I did, I would never complain about anything going on there. But maybe your relationship with your T is different. It sounds like she must have specifically offered that you can call her at home. I've never had a T that did that.
I'm wondering whether you are calling her and actually catching her at home, or whether you leave her a message and then she calls back? If it's the former, then my personal feeling is that you're asking her to give up her free time for your therapy (which is also her work), and it feels to me like a bit much to then also ask her to go to a specific room, etc. From my perspective it feels a bit like looking a gift horse in the mouth. And, I'm thinking that if she has three boys, she may need to keep an eye on them sometimes (unless they're teenagers or something). Or maybe she has a pot boiling on the stove or something. I mean, who knows what they were in the middle of when you called.
If she's calling you back in response to a message, that's a little different, IMHO, because she can probably choose to some extent exactly when to call you. And she can probably make some arrangements (i.e., have someone else watch the pot on the stove).
I'm afraid that this message sounds negative toward you, which isn't what I mean. I know things about therapy can affect us very strongly. I just thought it might be useful to you to hear my thoughts from a different perspective.
pegasus
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