Posted by Rigby on April 10, 2004, at 10:40:43
In reply to Compassion of Convenience, posted by Speaker on April 10, 2004, at 10:15:14
Hi Speaker,
The whole boundary thing can be tricky and really off-putting. And therapists seem pretty attuned if not (IMHO) a bit hair-trigger about the whole issue.
I suppose many w/ experience have had clients who do over do it so they feel a need to put that out there. Anyway, I can relate and I would probably feel the same way. Maybe you can bring that up with him at some point--that you "get" boundaries and you didn't need for him at that moment to assert his?
> If you have any thoughts or input I would appreciate it!!! I have gone to this new T for about 6 months. I have been having a very painful time remembering past trauma...very scarey. I mentioned to the T that I wanted to call him the other night. I have called once during office hours and left a message...he kindly returned my call. When I told him I wanted to call at night I asked him if it would have been ok. He said yes...but...if it happened too often he would have to talk to me about that!!!! Duhhhh!!! To me that said NOT REALLY BUT IF YOU MUST. I understand boundries and am VERY good at them...but I am sick of living in a "compasson of convinience" world. As long as its conveinent (in your allotted appt. time) I will have compassion and help...BUT...if its not within my boundries of convenience I won't be helping. Am I looking at this WRONG????
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