Posted by Noni on April 2, 2004, at 7:15:43
In reply to Re: Has anyone heard of a-sensitive?, posted by inthegloaming on April 1, 2004, at 8:36:47
I'm so relieved that there are other people out there with similar feelings. I have never talked about this as an adult as it seemed too off the wall and I think I got teased for it as a child.
It's interesting that you mention it in connection with your mother's death, inthegloaming, as I wondered what could possibly have sparked off these feelings and my brother died when I was four. It doesn't compare, I imagine, with losing your mother, as my brother only lived a day and I can't remember anything about it other than the excitement at his birth, and then nothing. I have a lot of fear of losing people, and was convinced as a child that my parents were going to die any day. It was the biggest pain I have ever felt. Perhaps the death sparked off this deep need to take care of things. Who knows. It's not an area I have explored much, and I'm not going to bore the pants off everyone by exploring it here, but wondered if that might have resonance for you, too.
I'm a bit the same with plants, too. But that's more of a regret and guilt thing.
My therapist recommends getting and 'self-harming' a doll from a second hand shop as it is cheaper, but I couldn't bear to do that knowing the doll was probably much loved and slept in someone's bed once upon a time. Is that weird?
Thanks for posting.
> noni--
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> that's so strange you should mention that... i had feelings like that when i was younger. it happened after my mum died (i was quite little). i was afraid inatimate objects would feel bad if they weren't given the proper attention. i attached emotions and actions to things that obviously had none--rocks, food, etc. i remember this very clearly, remember feeling a terrible sense of guilt if i did not come through for the objects.
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> some of it still stays. i am 20 years old and still sleep with a stuffed animal curled in my arm for comfort. at school, it's a black cat puppet. at home, it's a little cat i've had since i was six years old--can you tell i'm a kitty fan?
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> funny, i thought it was the only one with bizarro object transferrence... glad to know i'm not.
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