Posted by DaisyM on March 19, 2004, at 15:04:36
In reply to Re: Sharing with T » DaisyM, posted by All Done on March 16, 2004, at 16:00:07
You under-estimate yourself, I think. Writing it down IS hard. It also shows how self-aware you are. Courage is a fleeting thing, so don't be so hard on yourself. It is self-preservation to step out of the way of an oncoming truck, so side-stepping painful issues is understandable.
I think I want to ask my Therapist about that "we'll come back to it" thing as well...He often says, "we should talk more about this" but I have two or three things I haven't gone back to and yes, I am consciously avoiding them. I don't know if he is waiting for me to bring them up, or if he will eventually. It's not like there isn't tons of other stuff to deal with!
I also think the Butterflies represent how important this list is to you. You are taking a big step in trusting so much to your Therapist...of course you are nervous! The investment we make when we identify what feels like a really important insight or topic is huge... I sometimes think, "what if he thinks this is silly?" Or, (gasp!) what if I'm WRONG?!
My Therapist always asks me how I could be wrong about something being important to me, because if I think it is, it is in some way. There might be more to it than I see, but it IS important.
So allow yourself the freedom to think it is OK to feel nervous and it isn't childish or weak or anything but a correct response to a stressful situation. You will get through it and it will move you forward.
Please let me know how it goes. I will be out shoe shopping on Saturday but I'll think of you.
Daisy
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