Posted by pegasus on March 11, 2004, at 10:56:58
In reply to Re: It does help, but /MAY TRIGGER*thanks** » gardenergirl, posted by terrics on March 10, 2004, at 19:08:48
Hi terrics,
I'm a little confused about how your T can be doing CBT without letting you talk about your SI. My understanding of the cognitive side of CBT is that you would examine the thoughts behind the feelings. So, using a cognitive-behavioral approach to treating SI would - I thought - require examining the thoughts that you have that are related to the SI. And I'm not sure how you can discuss those without discussing the SI itself. Because, if you're like me, you probably have some thoughts going on while you are injuring yourself. I talk about those thoughts, as much as I can, with my T, and that seems like a critical part of my therapy. I mean, there's a lot of shame and self hatred, and anger, and feeling abandoned, etc., and it comes out as SI. Figuring that out has been super helpful for me. I feel bad for you that your T won't let you talk about that big big part of your experience. Maybe I'm misunderstanding?
I just wanted to let you know that other Ts handle this differently. My T is thrilled whenever I talk about SI, because I have a lot of shame, and tend to keep it very secret in my life, and avoid talking about it during therapy. Maybe you are different, and your T has a theory about why *not* talking about it in your case is a better approach. Maybe you could ask her what that theory is, so you can feel less neglected and denied about this in therapy. If she does explain it, I'd like to hear what she says.
- p
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