Posted by DaisyM on February 20, 2004, at 18:35:48
In reply to Re: This powerful attraction - here to stay?, posted by pinkeye on February 20, 2004, at 18:00:50
Longing for what? To be held, to be nurtured and taken care of? Curl yourself in your husband's arms and hold on to him. Tell him, "I just need to feel you protecting me right now."
Or to be swept away by passion? This is something I would not do because of my own "issues" but one of my best friends routinely buys sexy "stuff" because she gets excited thinking about her husband's reaction. She has more fun with her husband than anyone I know!
Or is it longing to KNOW that you are loved and understood? This only comes from talking - about dreams, plans for the future, hopes and fears. We don't get to have these conversations very often but once in awhile they remind us how vulnerable the other person is and makes them more loveable.
Not that I don't think you know your own heart about what a good match you and your ex-therapist might have been had you met elsewhere. But, since you didn't, isn't it better to concentrate on making what you do have fit your needs?
It is hard, isn't it? I don't mean to say it isn't. I feel for you. I haven't had these feelings for my Therapist, I watch for them every once in awhile, but I can see how you could easily get them. I think maybe I won't because my needs that didn't get met are different. But who knows?
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