Posted by Dinah on February 6, 2004, at 19:32:58
In reply to Re: I spoke about this board today, posted by shortelise on February 6, 2004, at 13:07:28
> I feel reassured when I get an emotional response from my shrink as it feels like I pull him out of shrink mode when I do that.
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> It used to feel awful. I wanted him to be completely strong and composed. When his eyes would redden with tears if I told him something particularly awful, it felt like he was weak, and I neeed strength in him. But in fact, it's part of empathy and doesn't mean weakness. When I have angered or frustrated him, it felt good because I was so upset myself. Hm. That doesn;t sound very nice of me, but do we have to be "nice" to our therapists?
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> ShorteI've always felt that the therapeutic relationship was wonderful because we can trust our therapists to take care of their own needs. :) Not that I'm "frustrating" on purpose, but I don't try to be someone I'm not, either.
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