Posted by crushedout on February 4, 2004, at 8:11:17
In reply to Re: ok, now it hurts, posted by gardenergirl on February 4, 2004, at 6:50:35
thanks, gg. but first step? i've been going through this for ages. i hope it's a step but it can't be the first one. i vacillate between grief and ecstasy, but i don't seem to be making any progress as far as getting over the transference. i hope i will.
> Crushedout,
> I'm so sorry you are in pain. I know how much you care about your T and how much you wanted to have your feelings reciprocated. I think Alexandra K's response is right on, and I really don't have much to add to it.
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> It's perfectly normal to wish for more from your T. As much as it hurts right now, and I'm sure you don't want to hear this right now, but it is a valuable therapeutic experience to go through this. It is the first step towards working through the transference, which I believe you will be able to do in time.
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> But you are also grieving this loss and will probably experience a variety of feelings. I encourage you to share those feelings with your T, even if you are embarrassed, angry, or afraid of damaging the relationship. If she is worth her salt, and I am guessing she is, then this also will help in the long run.
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> Please take extra care of yourself at this time. It is a loss, and I know it hurts. And keep posting!
>
> (((crushedout)))
>
> gg
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